“Why do you like mentoring?” I've been asked this repeatedly whenever I mention that, through most of my six-year professional career, I've always mentored at least three or four people on an ongoing basis, and over two dozen in total. It's periodic check-ins, taking notes, guidance on resumes and career transitions, and — most importantly — simply connecting with my mentees.
The question is asked without malice, I'm sure. The amount of work can seem astronomical when you're already busy, and sometimes life gets in the way. But it raises a few intriguing questions: what do I actually gain from being a mentor? Why do I consistently invest so much of my time in it? Do I simply enjoy talking to people? Aren't you exhausted?
No. Mentoring brings me immense joy because I see myself in my mentee's shoes. When I began my career ten years ago, I lacked mentors and didn't understand their importance. I struggled — big time — with time management, stress, FUD (fear, uncertainty, and doubt), and indecision. I often wondered which direction to take, which language to learn, and how to make the most of my time.
Whether I'm mentoring someone over 40 transitioning into a software career or someone in their first-ever co-op term, my goal has always been the same: care and guidance. Imagine starting a new job in the corporate world and feeling like a newborn. You need all the help, encouragement, and reassurance you can get. The corporate world can be tough — high expectations, personal goals, performance reviews, challenges, the pressure to deliver. It's like being thrown into the deep end without a safety net, and sometimes it can feel overwhelming.
That's why I enjoy mentoring: I was that corporate newborn ten years ago, and many people helped me get where I am now. Paying it forward is the least I can do. Talking with energized — or sometimes frustrated — mentees is a way of connecting with my past self, as if through the fabric of space and time, in another parallel universe.
If you've helped me, know that I'm eternally grateful. I vividly remember you all. If I've helped you, I don't need acknowledgment or praise; I just want you to pay it forward. The world needs more positivity and tenderness.